聪明人的六个表现.docx

Youmaynotbeassmartasyouthinkyouare6大细节证明你其实没那么聪慧Stopforamomentandaskyourselfiftherewaseveratime(ortimes)you,vearrogantlysaidorthought:zzlzmtoosmartforthis/Ifyou'resomeonewhoalwaysbelievedthatyou'reMr.SmartyPants,youmaywanttotakeastepbackandcontemplate.Thatkindofthinkingcanworkagainstyouinlifeandinwork.停下来扪心自问：你有没有傲岸地自认为“太聪慧”？假如你始终自恃聪慧，或许该认真反省了。这种心态对生活和工作特别不利。Sowhileit,sdifficulttofacethetruth,let'sentertainthepossibilitythatyoumaynotbeassmartasyouthinkyouare.Readonandcheckifyouhavethefollowingsigns:面对现实并不简单一一为什么说你没有自认为的那样聪慧？或许以下就是缘由。请往下读，看看你是否也有这些表现吧：1. You,remoreofatalkerthanalistener你爱倾诉，不擅倾听Andthat,sputtingitnicely.一语点中要害。Youlikethesoundofyourownvoice,withorwithoutyouknowingit.Peopledon,tcometoyoutotalkabouttheirproblemsorevencelebratetheirsuccessesbecauseyoualwaysenduptalkingaboutyourownproblemsandsuccesses.不管是否意识到，你都喜爱表达自己。跟你在一起，别人根本就无法倾诉苦恼或庆贺胜利，由于你始终在滔滔不绝谈论自己的苦恼或胜利。Ifthissoundslikeyou,consciouslydecidetolistenandfocusonthewhatthepersonissayingthenexttimeyou'reinaconversationwithsomeone.Don'ttrytoupstagethem,justlisten.假如你是这种人，那么下次跟人交谈时，请下意识学着倾听、去关注别人在讲什么吧。不要总是抢着说话，请倾听！2. Youshowoffonlythegoodstuffandmakesomeup你只炫耀好的一面，还会编造一些Youhideyourtruepersonality.Youfakeit.Bigtime.Whileit,sgoodtoalwaysbeatyourbestwhenmeetingimportantpeople,youtakeittoawholeotherlevel:Youliesothatpeoplehaveabetterimpressionofyou.你隐蔽自己的真实性格，经常戴着面具。虽然约见重要人物时，呈现自己最好的一面也无可厚非，但你会因此得寸进尺：为了给人留下好印象，你不停撒谎。Smartpeoplevaluetruthandknowbetterthantohideforthesakeoflookinggood.Showingonlyyourgoodsideandaddingsomespecialeffectswilltireyouinthelongrun.聪慧的人看重真实，不会为了看上去优秀而伪装自己。炫耀自己好的一面并加以粉饰，长此以往只会让你疲乏不堪。3. Youzrealwaysinthemiddleofastorm你总处在风暴中心Youalwaysfindyourselfinthemiddleofconflict.Andwhenyouthinkbackonit,youeithercausedthatconflictoryouaddedfueltotheflames.你总陷入冲突焦点。认真回想，你发觉：要么是你引发了冲突，要么是你煽了风点了火。Smartpeople,ontheotherhand,eitherdon,tgetinvolvedwhenthere,snothingtheycandoordotheirbesttohelpendtheconflict.Trytodothesame.相反，假如无济于事，聪慧的人会避开牵扯进去；假如可以关心，他们会尽量平静冲突。请学着点吧。4. Youdiscouragepeopleinsteadofliftingthemup你不鼓舞别人，反倒打击别人Youdiscouragepeople,notjustbysayingsooutrightbutalsobynotgivingthemthetimeofday.Inaway,you,retellingthemthattheirideasortheirproblemsarenotworthyourtimeoryour(perceived)intelligence.你说话露骨，不给人留余地；你总打击别人。你说别人的想法或问题太弱智，根本不值得你动脑筋。Smartpeoplehelpencourageothersbyactuallypayingattention.Theylisten(notethefirstsign)andsharewhattheyknow.IfbigshotslikeRichardBransonandAdm.WilliamMcRavenzcommanderintheU.S.specialforces,cantakethetimetoanswerlettersfromkids,youcanspendafewminutesencouragingpeople.聪慧的人会实实在在关怀鼓舞别人。他们倾听（见第1条）并共享自己的心得。像理查德布兰森、美国特种部队指挥官威廉麦克纳文这样的大人物都还费心回信给小伴侣，你为何不能花几分钟鼓舞他人呢？5. Youpreferlowbrowentertainment你喜爱低俗消遣Youdon'tchallengeyourselfwithdifficultsubjectsandarecontenttosticktoentertainingyethardlythought-provokingreadingmaterial.YoualsospendhourswatchingbadrealityTV.你宁愿读那些亳无意义的东西，也不愿尝试了解稍有深度的领域。你老追着看糟糕透顶的电视真人秀。Realsmartpeoplethriveonreadingbooksandwatchingfilmsthatsparktheircreativityandmakethemthinkandquestion.Afewhoursofintellectualreadingcouldopenupyourhorizonssogiveitashot.Youcanstartbylisteningtoaudiobooksifthethoughtofreadingthickbooksisdauntingtoyou.真正聪慧的人选择能激发制造力、发人深省的书籍或电影。阅读有深度的书籍可以开阔眼界，请尝试一下吧！假如一想到大部头书籍就头疼，你可以先听听有声书。6. You'realwayssobusy你总是忙劳碌碌Yourworklifeconsistsofyourunningaroundlikeaheadlesschicken.Therealwaysseemstobeaproblemthattakesupmostofyourworkday.Youalsofindyourselfdoingallthework,allthetime.你工作起来总像只没头苍蝇似的处处瞎忙。似乎每天都有费神耗时的烂摊子要整理，你无时无刻不在应付杂七杂八的任务。1.earnhowtodelegateandaskforhelp.It/salittlearrogantofyoutothinkthatyoucandoeverythingforeveryone.Makeitapointtorestandspendtimeonthingsthatmatterinlife,notjustwork.学着安排任务、寻求关心吧。觉得自己能单枪匹马包揽全部活计？太高估自己了！别只忙于工作，也要会休息，花时间做点真正有意义的事情。Youmayhavebeenpraisedalotwhenyouwereachild,ateen,oracollegestudentbecauseofyourhighgradesandotheracademicachievements.That,sgreat.Egoboostsnowandthenarehealthyandneeded.Butstriveformorethanjustaccolades.当你还是个孩子或同学时，由于考了高分或学业喜人，经常受人赞扬，的确很不错。现在自我膨胀了，渴望更大了，但决不能仅仅流连于夸赞之辞啊。Ifyoutrulywanttobesmartbutfindyourselfguiltyofthesignsabove,now'sthechancetomakeachange.Beasmarter;betterversionofyou.